Love Doesn't Have to Hurt… Rediscover the Love that Brought You Together.

When you and your spouse are having more bad days than good, regularly blaming or ignoring each other, it can seem like there is no other option than to call it quits. It can feel like you're in a constant pattern of miscommunication, mistrust, and resentment. As much as you try to work it out, your habitual patterns pull you back in and it's hard to break free.

As a couple and marriage counselor, my goal is to help you discover these patterns that are no longer serving you, and move from a place of defensiveness and blaming to a one of love and trust. Together we can identify your patterns and explore the feelings beneath the anger and resentment. We will move to a place of safety where each of you can express your fears and longings, and respond to each other with love and understanding.

I practice Emotionally-Focused Therapy for couples or just EFT. For me, one of the most exciting things about EFT is that research tells us that the initial distress level of a couple at the beginning of counseling is NOT a predictor of success! Oftentimes, that distress is a signal that each partner does truly care, it's just not being communicated in a productive way. Predictors of success are the desire of both of you to want to save the marriage, and your willingness to wholly participate in our therapy sessions, not just go through the motions.

I am passionate about EFT simply because it works. In our sessions together, we don't spend time rehashing details of every fight and all the events of the previous week. We focus on what's important: your fears of losing your spouse, ways in which you feel your needs don't matter, all the ways you try to satisfy your partner but somehow it's never good enough, or how angry you feel when your spouse withdraws and isn't there for you. And of course, in the case of infidelity, we work through the broken trust, the betrayal, and pain. We engage together to find new understanding, new hope and begin to pave a path of trust.